I've decided not to believe in trauma.
Allow me to explain: I've decided not to let my clients spend their lives or even their therapy believing they are damaged, wounded, broken -- worst of all, victimized. I believe there is a part of each of us, a part of our best and highest selves, that has never been offended, never been hurt, never been “punched in the gut,” abandoned, beaten, or battered.
I want to live from that part.
I want to live, walk, work and have my being from a place that knows just how amusing Earth and it's learning journey is in the bigger scheme of things.
Choosing to Play the Lottery of Life
From the eternal perspective, I think we looked down at Earth, it's funny games of learning, and it's progress and said, “YESSSSS! That is where I want to take my next challenge-adventure vacation! Please, oh please, oh please, let me. I swear I'll do my best.” We looked down on Earth's funny games of learning and said, “I swear I'll remember Love. I swear I'll remember to access all the amazing and fabulously astounding parts of me.”
Perhaps we looked down on Earth's process of progression and said, “I'll remember Love any time I'm scared, or in trouble or just plain fooled by this weird ego thing that's going with me.” Maybe we even saw a hint of the shit storm coming our way, yet we still said, “I still want to go. I still want to live. Can I?! Can I?! Huh? Can I?!”
And the Universe sighed and said, “Okay, enter the Earth Lotto (with all the other extreme sport spirits), and see if you can win a chance at it.
The part of us that remembers that, that part, knows that you are whole, complete, astounding, unfazed by human experience, happy with your challenges and thrilled with your gifts, even the ones that don't feel like gifts all the time.
Know This: I Am Here For You.
If you are carrying shock in your body and cellular memory because of traumas you've experienced or traumas your ancestors couldn't clear, then I am here for you.
I am trained, experienced, prepared, happy and willing to be there while you learn how to clear that (it's actually pretty easy). I will facilitate you, coach you, teach you, encourage you, champion you and celebrate with you.
I will be your Witness.
And then you will see what I see. You were never harmed. You were never truly hurt. You survived it (whatever it was) and you're here, being AMAZING because you also thrived. Not in spite of it, but BECAUSE you overcame it.